For those of you out there like myself, of course you love a good gift. I mean who doesn’t enjoy being gifted? Crazy aliens, that’s who. So when V-day rolls around you probably think to yourself, “hm what is my husband/boyfriend/girlfriend/
I don’t know about the rest of you but I do enjoy to gift as well as be gifted on this holiday. It’s mostly just because I consider myself to be a partial feminist so if us women are getting celebrated on Valentine’s Day, then men should also be celebrated so that it’s equal and fair. I haven’t officially given the above statement much thought so don’t hold me to being a partial feminist. But I do like the idea of equality in many aspects of relationships. Also being a lover of psychology and all mental health in general, I think men need to feel loved and appreciated just as much if not more so than women. So with that said, the reason I put together this blog, let’s talk about how to have my kind of Valentine’s Day. Low key, thoughtful and intimate.
Now depending on what night it falls (weekend or weekday) will determine the following. For those of you who live the 9-5 schedule, you win on the weekends. I personally lose as my man is on restaurant time (for those of you who are unfamiliar, Tuesday and Wednesday is our “weekend”). Even more of a reason for my sweet and simple planning method.
Optional Step 1: Prep an easy but obviously delicious and fantastic, meal. Maybe set something up in the slow cooker for the day or an easy roast of sorts. Or maybe like me you just love desserts so bake a bunch of those and have a sugar fiesta. Go crazy. Again this is NOT A FOOD BLOG so I refuse to provide recipe ideas. Although, feel free to peruse my Pinterest page for ideas.
Link: Dessert is everything.
Mandatory Step 1: Gather up your favorite beverage(s). Wine, beer, cocktails, tea, whatever your fancy. Have it set and ready. (If you’re a tea fanatic like myself, you’ll want to check out this company. I highly recommend the snowball tea. http://bluebirdteaco.com/us_en/)
Step 2: Light some candles. All the candles. Any candles you can find. Create a cluster wherever you’ll be spending the brunt of your evening and get that mood lighting going. Exchange gifts and cards. And MEN (I’m laughing as I write this because how many males are actually reading my blog? Maybe zero), there besta be some good, handwritten cards. I’m pretty sure I’ve mentioned this before but that card is like a cupcake in my hands. Verbal affirmation is everything. So tell me every single thing you love about me and why. That card will hold me over until my birthday which is a whopping three months after v-day. So maybe save some of your amazing compliments about me for that day. Okay I guess this message subconsciously became directed at my husband. And by the way the dry spell between my birthday (April) and Christmas is really almost too much to bare. I wouldn’t hate a “thinking of you” mid summer card. See, this is how I know I’m in the right industry. Stationery is so important people.
Step 3: Setup a massage area. Now this requires some slight pre planning. One of my favorite extras are the massage bars sold at lush. They smell great and they feel nice so it’s enjoyable for both the masseuse and the receiver of said massage. I bet most of you don’t make time for this with your busy, crazy schedules. And it’s such a relaxing way to unwind and spend quality time with your significant other. It allows time to decompress and chat or no chatting and just being. *NOTE: PUT AWAY ALL TECHNOLOGY FOR SIX MINUTES, YOU WON’T MISS ANYTHING I PROMISE.
Step 4: Drink beverages, (eat potential meal) and try to talk about something other than work. Reflect on your favorite vacations, funniest memories, all the good times. Plan new vacations, dream and fantasize all the things. Even if it’s completely ridiculous like buying a private island and filling the entire place with taco trucks. The point is to create a “staycation” mindset. Escape your norm and get silly.
Step 5: (outfits are optional here) I won’t get into detail but maybe now you connect with your partner somehow…physically…? Okay bye.
That’s my idea of quite a lovely, stay at home, simple yet intimate Valentine’s Day. Love is love, guys.